Families of Adults Affected
by Asperger's Syndrome
These Case Histories were written by women whose husbands either have diagnosed Asperger’s syndrome or they suspect that this is what the problem is, usually because they already have diagnosed children. The Case Histories were sent to Brenda Wall during the period November 1996 to September 1997 for the purpose of convincing all the experts who said that people with AS did not get married, and therefore provided no support, that in fact they did. Also to copy them to all the ladies who formed the growing partners’ network as a source of validation and comfort.
Please note the following:
Case History 1
I thought that I could write a book about what it was like living with a husband who has Asperger’s Syndrome, although you don’t know at the time that is what it is. It is like a dripping tap that eventually erodes enamel, the grinding down of your self-esteem, self- confidence,...
Case History 2
I have been married for fourteen years; within six months of that marriage I had visited my GP to discuss whether or not my husband was experiencing some sort of nervous breakdown. I have mentioned serious depression; withdrawn behavior...
Case History 3
I have spent the last thirty-two years in some sort of bizarre, bewildering hell. This is extremely difficult for me to write – as I have been subjected to 30 years of written “lists” and “reports” on my behavior and conversation!...
Case History 4
I am writing in despair and poor health in the hope that someone, somewhere will recognize that there are many people in my position, we desperately need help, and our lives are in tatters. I use the word “life” loosely, because my quality of life is almost nil. I am the....
Case History 5
(Built up from extracts taken from letters from the correspondent.) Thank you so much for your kind letter and all the information. X went straight out and got Somebody Somewhere – and now Nobody Nowhere – and we have both just about read them.
Case History 6
I feel it is of the utmost importance that the following revelations are scrutinized very carefully in order for something to be done to help all the other carers and me to live with this situation. I am encountering terrible problems, but more to the point is what these problems …
Case History 7
I don’t know where to start. I am sure my husband is suffering from some form of autism but have had no one to talk to about it. He doesn’t seem to think there is anything wrong with him even if I mention some of his annoying attributes, even though he …